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Emotional Intelligence:
Techniques to Cultivate
Inner Strength in Children

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By Linda Lantieri
Introduction and Practices Guided by Daniel Goleman

What’s the most important piece of your child’s education? If you think it’s math, science, or grammar, you might be overlooking an element that is fast becoming essential in today’s stressful world: cultivating inner resiliency.

In Building Emotional Intelligence, pioneering educator Linda Lantieri offers a breakthrough guide for helping children quiet their minds, calm their bodies, and identify and manage their emotions. Here are Lantieri’s proven techniques arranged according to age group, complemented by a spoken-word CD with exercises presented by Daniel Goleman, co-founder of the Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning (CASEL) and author of the best-selling book Emotional Intelligence. Complete with easy-to-use scripts and step-by-step instruction, Building
Emotional Intelligence
is the definitive guide to cultivating resiliency in children.

Readers will learn:

+ How to building inner preparedness

+ How to teach children exercises to calm the body and focus the mind

+ Exercises to calm the body and focus the mind for 5–7 year olds

+ Exercises to calm the body and focus the mind for 8–11 year olds

+ Exercises to calm the body and focus the mind for 12 year olds and up

+ How to prepare children to lead us into the 21st century

“We need a new vision of education that includes the mind and the heart,” says Lantieri. With Building Emotional Intelligence, parents, teachers, and caregivers have the tools necessary to help build these invaluable skills in the children they raise.


Praise for Building Emotional Intelligence

"We all know kids struggle with stress. Now, Building Emotional Intelligence tells us how to help. Lantieri's simple but powerful exercises will help you inoculate your child with crucial coping skills to face a range of life challenges. This wonderful little book can take you on a sacred journey with your child and teach both of you lessons to last a lifetime."

Rachel Simmons, author, "Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls"


This is the best book I know to help children learn inner-life practices that can strengthen and sustain them. A moving mix of compassion, skillful means, and wisdom that can support young people growing up in a perilous but still promising world.

Parker J. Palmer, author of “The Courage to Teach”


“In this collaboration, Linda Lantieri and Dan Goleman form a dream team to help children discover and refine their deep inner capacities for well-being, calmness, relaxation, and emotional intelligence. Their program is a marvelous way for parents and their children to adventure together to build inner strengths and resiliency in dealing with the many stresses that children face in their daily lives.”

Jon Kabat-Zinn, Ph.D, Professor of Medicine emeritus UMass Medical School & Founding Director of the Stress Reduction Clinic and the Center for Mindfulness in Medicine, Health Care, and Society


“This book is critically needed at this important time in education in the United States. Schools have been consumed with improving children’s math and literacy skills, but too often have neglected the important impact of strong social and emotional learning skills. The Anchorage School District has long been a partner in this important work with Ms. Lantieri and her colleagues, and the results are profound! I highly recommend this book.”

Carol Comeau, Superintendent, Anchorage School District & Chair, Executive Committee, the Council of Great City Schools


What a gift Linda Lantieri and Daniel Goleman give to children with Building Emotional Intelligence! The wonderful and appealing exercises and activities promise to cultivate in children a deep reserve of calm and inner resilience that will sustain them now and for the rest of their lives.

Nancy Carlsson-Paige, author of “Taking Back Childhood” and professor of education at Lesley University.


A comprehensive guide with practical exercises for parents and their children to calm the body and focus the mind. Using principles derived from modern brain research, Linda Lantieri has created a novel curriculum that promises to be enormously helpful in building a foundation for a successful life by cultivating skills in managing disturbing emotions, increasing empathy and cooperation and instilling calmness. This book and accompanying CD will be of interest to all parents who wish their children to be happy and successful.

Richard J. Davidson, William James and Vilas Professor of Psychology and Psychiatry Director, Waisman Laboratory for Brain Imaging and Behavior University of Wisconsin-Madison


Building Emotional Intelligence will be a welcome resource for parents and teachers seeking to teach children to slow down and listen to their inner voices.

Marian Wright Edelman, President, Children’s Defense Fund


Reader's Reviews

Susan Glick April 16, 2008
I am a Guidance Counselor at a private school in Miami Florida. Building Emotional Intelligence is a must have book that offers clear strategies to support children in becoming resilient and coping with a fast paced and sometimes stressful world. I have been using the activities and the CD by Daniel Goleman since I read it. My students have really enjoyed the CD and benefitted by the activities offered. I've recommended it to several parents with children who need support coping with day to day stresses and it is great to have a book which I can confidently recommend. It is concisely written and in a format that is easy to access by age group.

This is the kind of book I wished I had when I was raising my children who are now in their twenties. This is a must have for Guidance Counselors and parents.

Lynne Hurdle-Price May 8, 2008
This is a book that makes sense. So many parents and educators are concerned about the extraordinary amount of stress and pressure our children are experiencing. This book allows educators the opportunity to follow a step by step lesson plan along with other helpful tips to reduce that stress. Parents will find that they can take the activities and do them at home along with their child. Finally we're talking about the part of our children that schools often overlook, their social and emotional well being. It is written in understandable and relatable language. I hope schools will buy this book for every educator and parent in their school community!

Courtney Martin May 5, 2008
I finally had a chance to read Building Emotional Intelligence and found it a refreshing dose of "this is what matters" with a special kid-focused twist. It's absolutely wonderful--so moving and totally practical in a way that will undoubtedly inspire to many parents, teachers, and students. Brava!

Susan R. Merrick April 18, 2008
I loved reading this book and found it spoke to me as a parent in this busy, non-stop 21st century world. Raising children in our Vermont school community, I'm sensitive to how busy families are today and how stretched thin we all are. And yet, from conversations I've been lucky to have with caring parents and guardians, it is clear to me that so many of us seek a way to slow down a bit, to share more quiet moments with our families, and to partner with educators in empowering children, including (perhaps most importantly) older students, to address and handle stress in their everyday lives in healthy ways.

I found Building Emotional Intelligence offered step-by-step, practical approaches to allowing this to happen - both at home and in our schools. These approaches enable all of us, children, youth and adults, to tap into resources we already have within us to slow down, reflect, and make mindful decisions. Rather than making parents feel guilty about what we're not doing to support our children, this book invites us to look at what we already are doing that's good - and simply build from there. I also loved Linda's awareness that these steps to children's self-awareness will involve the commitment of all adults, a true village approach to launching children to compassionate, respectful adulthood. She writes, "We must foster the compassion, insight, and commitment to ourselves and each other that will be necessary to tackle the deep emotional, social, political and spiritual dilemmas of our time" (141). I couldn't agree more.

I respectfully invite all parents and guardians to share copies of this book with one another and ask your children's teachers what you might do to support them and their classrooms. Linda speaks of collaboration, and in my mind there is no better way to honor children than to let them know they have a village of adults who care about each of them.

Auriel A. Gray April 17, 2008
As an elementary school counselor for over twenty years I have been looking for effective resources to share with students, parents and teachers that are practical and support the teaching of foundational self-regulation skills. Building Emotional Intelligence is the perfect developmental guide for both educators and parents in this respect, as it is very user-friendly and easy to implement with children of all ages.

The chapters are arranged in developmental stages and clearly describe simple activities appropriate for each school age. The actitivies are also provided in the accompanying CD, which is an ingenious way to support their intended application. My students have been loving the self-calming and focusing exercises on the CD, which have stimulated meaningful discussion. After doing one of the listening exercises on the CD this week, one kindergartener said,'When I feel lonely, I listen to my heart beat and then I know I'm not alone'. A guidance counselor couldn't ask for a more engaged outcome.

Our goal is to share this book with as many teachers and parents in our area as possible. One of our esteemed parents has said about it, 'This could change the world!'. Thank you, Linda, for this much-needed inner, as well as outer, peace tool.

Margarita C. Avalos April 16, 2008
After attending a seminar and listening to Linda Lantieri speak, I had to purchase this book. I read most of it on my flight home. As a guidance counselor I found this book to be filled with wonderful practical ideas to share with teachers and parents.

Maggie Camara-Avalos, LCSW
Director of Guidance
Miami Country Day School

Martha Eddy April 15, 2008
I was pleased to receive my copy of Building Emotional Intelligence yesterday. I've already read it cover to cover. As a parent, researcher, and educator who values social-emotional intelligence, contemplative practices, and the importance of body awareness this book has it all. I have learned new facts and been re-inspired! It is a satisfying book filled with up-to-date facts and exciting wellness practices that support emotional growth and development. This attractive guide complete with a DVD by Daniel Goleman has been fun to use with children as a parent, a friend, or teacher; I highly recommend it.

Martha Eddy, CMA, Ed.D.
Director, Center for Kinesthetic Education
New York City